December seems like a good time to talk about some important do’s and don’ts of gift-giving.
In my early twenties, I hung out with a group of people whose company I greatly enjoyed. They were educated, interesting, creative, and fun. I invited them over for dinner parties, costume parties, just-get-together parties, and to spend time by the pool at the apartment complex where I lived. Sometimes I would hear that […]
What‘s it like growing up with an emotionally abusive parent? Imagine that every meal you eat is poisoned. Not enough to kill you, but enough to make you feel nauseated all the time. Every meal makes you sick, sometimes so sick you are afraid you‘re going to die. If you try to tell the person […]
We all have that friend. Let’s call her Joan. Joan always says she’ll do something, and then never does it. She says she’ll meet you for tea at a bookstore. You’re looking forward to it; you haven’t seen Joan in months. (And there’s a reason why you haven’t seen her. Just watch.) But when the […]
For the past 30 years, A Course in Miracles (ACIM) has been a profound influence on how I live. ACIM’s most important teaching is that we each have only one thing to choose: We can choose to spread fear. Or we can choose to spread love. And a second teaching: if we choose fear, we […]
One of the best things you can do to improve your world is to dedicate yourself to truth. That means being honest with yourself, as honest as you possibly can be. If you aren’t used to it, it can be hard to figure out where to start or even how to distinguish the truth from […]
Are we maturing or just getting older? You might be asking, “What’s the difference?” We’re just getting older if we just live life as it comes. Life lived that way tends to repeat itself. We make the same mistakes. We hurt the same people in the same ways. We think of ourselves in the same […]
Why do people turn against other people they admired, or against groups they belong to? It’s the idealization process. Here’s how it goes. Individually, you admire certain qualities in another person and you want to actualize those qualities in yourself. But you are unconscious of the idealization you’ve made–that you’ve put that person on a pedestal and […]